Create A Life You Love Newsletter
Practical steps to have MORE in your life - More fun, more love,
more peace, more excitement.
ISSUE NO 8: MAINTAIN AN 'UP SPIRAL', AVOID THE
'DOWN'
CONTENTS
1. FEATURE ARTICLE: The Up Spiral; The Down Spiral
2. Top Ten Actions to Begin or Maintain Your
'Up Spiral'
3. Announcements
4. The Personal Touch
5. About the "Create a Life You Love" Newsletter
Next Month: "Relationships - Finding Your Perfect Partner"
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PART I: FEATURE ARTICLE: "The Up Spiral; The
Down Spiral"
Summary
If life is anything short of amazing right now, find some Positive Actions
to give an Up Spiral a chance of finding you!
The stock market is said to jump up and down at random. I
do not believe this is true of life. Instead, we instead follow spirals
- either 'Up Spirals' or 'Down Spirals'.
The Down Spiral
There are events, then actions, then events, then actions, and
on.
Negative events can cause negative feelings, followed by NEGATIVE ACTIONS,
leading to negative events followed by negative feelings, then
NEGATIVE ACTIONS, leading to ... the 'Down Spiral'.
Greg was neglecting his body. He wasn't eating healthy food, exercising, or
getting quite enough sleep. Not feeling the best about himself,
he also didn't feel too motivated to keep his apartment clean.
Now being a little more sensitive to people's comments, he
found himself snapping at people more than usual, drinking/smoking
more, and getting less sleep and exercise.
He started getting into work later, because it was harder to get
up, and he felt in a way that he now had reasons or justification
for getting into work late. Greg then got the flu, had a
fight with two friends, and got in trouble at work for being
late. Of course, Greg then felt worse then ever ... "no body
cares", "it's not fair", "life is so hard".
He stopped calling his friends and stayed home feeling sorry for
himself. His car broke down because he'd ignored that knock
in the engine for two weeks, and from out of nowhere his
girlfriend Susie broke up with him!
The
Point
Negative events can cause negative feelings, followed by NEGATIVE ACTIONS,
leading to negative events. Enter the 'Down Spiral'.
But enough of that spiral!
If there's a 'Down Spiral', surely there must be an 'Up Spiral'!
So can you remember a time in your life when things were almost
too good? When everything seemed to work out and life just
kept getting better?
The Up Spiral
Mary made a personal decision one day to be early for every appointment. She
found herself actually sitting for five minutes with time to think, chat
to the receptionist or simply breathe! For some reason, Mary felt
less stressed with life, and took time to speak with more people.
On one occasion, this led to her being offered a better job,
closer to home, and with more pay.
Feeling good about life, Mary started actually going to that gym
she had paid for six months ago, put down a deposit on that
acting course she'd been thinking about for years, and strangely
found herself naturally listening to others more than talking.
The next week, positively beaming from the way life was going,
she was asked out on four dates by four different men.
In this case, positive actions led to positive events, which led
to feeling good and more positive actions, which led to the
'Up Spiral'.
The
Point
If life is anything short of amazing right now, find some POSITIVE
ACTIONS (PA's) to give an Up Spiral a chance of finding you!
PART II: TOP TEN POSITIVE ACTIONS TO
BEGIN/MAINTAIN YOUR UP SPIRAL
(OK, so some are obvious. Does that mean they don't work?)
1. Say hello to EVERYBODY. First.
2. Thank people three times more than you normally would. (For
EVERYTHING they do that you like - look hard)
3. Give yourself at least one treat every week (e.g. massage,
30 minutes at the lake or beach).
4. Get the sleep and rest you need.
5. Listen. Find out how your friends are REALLY going.
6. Save 10-20% of your income, and have one year's living expenses available
as cash.
7. Handle the background items that are bugging you (filing,
untidiness, lawn etc.)
8. Look ahead, and handle something likely to give you problems
down the track (car, apartment, job, relationship, lack of
insurance)
9. Keep it simple. Drop anything that will have you rushed or overwhelmed.
10. Keep the commitments you do make (be on time, pay bills on
time etc.)
by David Wood
3. ANNOUNCEMENTS
I
am embarking on a project involving women searching for "Mr. Right". If
you're a woman looking for "Mr. Right", and are interested in coaching
at 50% of the regular coaching fee, please email me at lifecoach@instructor.net
(I have 3 spaces left for this special offer)
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4. THE PERSONAL TOUCH
This
month we form a coach training company! Currently we're looking
at just what new coaches are looking for in terms of training,
and finalising directors. We expect to be taking registrations
in a few months.
My clients are launching a "dot.com", finding "Mr. Right", and
pursuing record labels - to name a few activities.
The New York trip has been delayed and cut short - I've gotten
involved in a VERY fun project involving relationship coaching,
which I can talk about in the next issue.
Love David
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THE
AUTHOR is David Wood of SolutionBox™
David Wood is a personal and business coach. He coaches people
who are ready for MORE in their life. He helps people focus
on a particular area of their life, and develop actions to
move forward in that area.
He coaches individuals in several countries via e-mail, phone and
in person, and speaks to organisations on topics such as
'Create A Life You Love'.
Professional Affiliations: International Coaching Federation,
National Speakers Association of Australia,
Institute of Actuaries of Australia.
