Create A Life You Love Newsletter

Practical steps to have MORE in your life - More fun, more love, more peace, more excitement.

Welcome to the Premier edition of the CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE newsletter

PART 1. About the "Create a Life You Love" Newsletter
PART 2. Feature Article: ACKNOWLEDGEMENT - Change Your Life With a Simple Habit
PART 3. Top Ten tips to being Unconditionally Constructive

Information on subscription, submitting material for this newsletter, forwarding to friends, and your coach - David Wood, can be found at the end of this newsletter.

PART 1. About the "CREATE A LIFE YOU LOVE" Newsletter

This newsletter is designed to give you practical steps you can take this week to have more in life. More fun, more love, more fulfillment, more peace, more excitement.

Please feel free to forward this newsletter to your friends and family members if you think they would enjoy it. To subscribe, click lifecoach@instructor.net?subject=Subscribe

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PART 2. FEATURE ARTICLE: "ACKNOWLEDGEMENT - Change Your Life With a Simple Habit"

You've worked for hours on dinner - doing the best you can - and he says ............ nothing.

How do you feel? Feel like cooking tomorrow night?

What if he says: "Jenny, I really appreciate you taking the time to cook. Aside from the food being great, I got to spend extra time finishing that job that's been bugging me. Thank you for that".

Now how do you feel, and do you feel like cooking tomorrow night?

If we're not acknowledged or appreciated, we're less happy, tend to contribute less, and begin to resent things we are doing. When we are appreciated, we feel wonderful, and want to do more for people. It's as if we have SURPLUS that we want to share!

So what kind of experience are you creating for the people around YOU? If you were born and raised on Earth, chances are you have learned the habit of keeping any acknowledgement or appreciation you feel for others largely to yourself.

Yet with a very simple habit, you can completely alter the experience of everyone who comes into contact with you! Why starve them of the attention and appreciation that lights us up?

So here's the action part. USE if you CHOOSE.

a) Make a list of five people in your life who could use more appreciation (It can be a secretary, neighbour or bus driver. Or call a parent and acknowledge them for WHO they have been all your life).

b) Write one thing next to each person that you could thank them or appreciate them for. (e.g. "Dad, thanks for always being happy about my successes", "Jan, you ALWAYS say 'hello' when I come in - thanks.", "Bill, I really appreciate the effort you always make to get the numbers right - it makes my day easier"

c) Put in your diary when this week you will acknowledge them.

Bonus:

Write down five things you should acknowledge YOURSELF for! (Yes - it's easy for us to criticise even ourselves. Start practicing patting yourself on the back!)

Tip:

If you really want to make acknowledgement a habit - find a course that goes over a couple of months (e-mail me for suggestions), play a game with someone to see who can clock up the most acknowledgements in a week, or work with a coach!

by David Wood
SolutionBox™

PART 3. Top Ten tips to being Unconditionally Constructive

1. Point out the person's strengths, not their weaknesses.

2. Point out what was good that was behind a person's actions, even if the result didn't work out.

3. Empathize, then endorse and reinforce, repeatedly.

4. Make the person feel normal for whatever they are experiencing.

5. Acknowledge the person, accurately and without puffery.

6. Don't refer to the failure/error, ever.

7. Tell them who you are for them (a fan, a supporter, a source of business/love, etc.).

8. Don't compare today's performance/progress with yesterday's.

9. Focus/speak to the spirit of the other person, not just their actions or achievements.

10. Have others who are always unconditionally constructive with you.

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THE AUTHOR is David Wood of SolutionBox™

David Wood is a personal and business coach. He coaches people who are ready for MORE in their life. He helps people focus on a particular area of their life, and develop actions to move forward in that area.

He coaches individuals in several countries via e-mail, phone and in person, and speaks to organisations on topics such as 'Create A Life You Love'.

Professional Affiliations: International Coaching Federation, National Speakers Association of Australia, Institute of Actuaries of Australia.

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