Feel Complete Before Looking For A Relationship
The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Well I know you are, Ingrid, but there’s some people out there who may feel a little less than perfect. Now here’s the thing. Often, when we look for a relationship, and I include myself in this, often when we look, we’re looking because we don’t feel whole and complete on our own. We’re not happy and we feel lonely, and therefore we want a relationship to feel connected. Okay? That’s very common.
Ingrid: All right, so what you’re saying then is that we have to feel whole before we start looking?
David: You don’t have to, but it helps. It helps so much. What I would say is you want to be enjoying your life, and that is your number one priority. Actually, it’s your number one priority on the planet, we could say. You must be enjoying your life. So if you’re really desperate for a relationship – and there’s nothing wrong with that; many times I’ve been very desperate to have some company or have someone in a relationship – what you want to look at is whether you’re enjoying your life. If you’re not – which is very likely if you’re desperate for a relationship – you want to look at what you could do to your life to have it be more fun for you. Then, the irony is, if you spend a couple of months on this and you go and get your house looking the way you want it to look, you get your clothes looking the way you want them to look, you go to the gym – if that’s bugging you; only if it’s bugging you – and you really start enjoying your life – maybe buying that guitar and taking some lessons, and going out to that club you want to go at – you are going to be so much more attractive to everybody.
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