The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Yeah, but what I can see is the possibility that like as you’re going through your roller coaster, she’s got her own version that she’s trying to move through and deal with it all, so I can totally get that if you called her – see, look at how confused you’ve been, right, and you’ve got me to help you through it. She’s on her own. Who’s going to help her through it? Her man? She’s probably not talking to him about it. So she’s dealing with that, and each time, if you do go back to her to try and get your need met, you can be turning her life upside down a little bit. So just something to bear in mind.
Client: Yeah, exactly. I was just thinking whether that’s actually selfish of me to actually do that.
David: Yeah. So the coaching is to stay present, stay aware in each moment, to check in with her as to what she wants and what would support her. If what would support her is not hearing your voice, then yeah, she’s made it pretty clear and you can decide if you want to do that, or if it’s more important to you to get your need met, which I suspect it isn’t, from what I’ve heard from you today.