Create #52: Structures: When You Just Can’t Get Motivated
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I’ll be speaking at this event at Columbia University. It’s Friday, May 16, from 8 am to 6:30 pm, and Saturday, May 17, from 8 am to 12:30 pm.
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2. FEATURE: Structures – When You Just Can’t Get Motivated
For three months I’ve barely touched work. In fact I’ve found it hard to leave the house much of the time. And for some people (including me the past few months), lack of motivation can be just the surface. I’ve recently experienced anxiety and depression, and now a break up. (Yes, yes, all part of the spiritual journey. And – it can all be a bit inconvenient when there are bills to pay, and results you want to produce!)
You may be in a similar place. You may just be feeling unmotivated and wanting some oomph in your life. Or you may be doing well, and want to fly higher.
This article is for you.
I’m feeling motivated and excited right now. And I figure if I can do it coming from the space I’ve been in, then anyone can do it.
I’ll keep it to two simple steps:
Step 1) What do you need for yourself?
Take a look at what’s missing for YOU. What are you not giving yourself? What could you add to your life that would fill YOU up? Is it a soothing bath each day? A massage? Doing a good deed? Nurturing touch from a friend? More (or less) time with your partner? Exercise? Or to see an exciting football game.For me, it’s setting up a lot of company/social interaction. It’s being around inspirational people who are making things happen. It’s exercise and moving my body. It’s music, good food, and chai tea 😉 It’s doing the inner work. And it’s keeping busy so I’m not navel gazing too much on my own in my apartment with my thoughts.
What is it for you? I invite you to make a list right now of things that you might really enjoy; that would fill you up; that would have you feel nurtured and happier.
Step 2) Put the structures in place to have this in your life
Given I don’t feel like leaving the house right now, and I’m often not in the mood to set up something supportive, setting up structure in advance can often be the key.
What kind of structure would support you moving forward with your goals? And giving you what you need to soar higher?
For business goals do you need a goal buddy? A coach? More social interaction or fun? Accountability? Inspiration?
For more personal goals do you need more fun? More nurturing? To be in action each day? A goal buddy? A coach or therapist? A filled in calendar?
As you read through the list of structures I’ve created (am creating) for myself, see what comes to you as something that would serve you:
- joining a men’s group
- scheduling time with friends including sleep-overs
- registering for volunteer work
- exercising almost every day (e.g. rollerblading in central park, squash, 5 Rhythms/Sweat Your Prayers, Bikram yoga)
- setting up a buddy for a regular 8:30am call to do withholds (you get 15 minutes each to talk uninterrupted and blurt out the rubbish in your head; or you could do the Morning Pages)
- setting up appointments to work from a café with friends, instead from my home office.
- hiring an awesome coach to help me do The Work
- massage twice a week
1) Go to the blog right now and post the top three things that would fill you up; that would have you feel nurtured and happier and possibly more motivated.
2) After that list, post the STRUCTURES you will put in place in the next 7 days to make sure these things happen without you having to keep creating them all the time; they just happen. (Hint: a regular schedule helps, as does committing with a buddy or coach).
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P.S. Got a comment on this article? Add it to the blog. I’d love to hear what gifts you’re going to give yourself, and the structures you’ll put in place to ensure they happen.
3. The Personal Touch
As you may already know from the above article, things have been pretty rough. And – out of the ashes rises blah blah blah. I’ve learned a lot about what I want/need in relationship and what serves me. I’ve set boundaries for myself, even when it was very difficult to do so. I’ve set up strong structures in my life to take care of myself. And I’m exploring who I am – and how my thoughts work (yes, it’s pretty trippy – highly recommend http://www.thework.com/ ).
Fortunately – the last 3-4 weeks have been a major turn around. I’m excited about business again, and getting stuck into things. My purpose is becoming clearer, and I’m feeling connected with it: Helping people share their gift with the world, and to get paid for it. And ultimately – to help people be free in all aspects of their life. And I’m intrigued by this thing called ‘service’ – it’s popping up in a lot of different areas. I’m absolutely thrilled to have been voted into the http://www.transformationalleadershipcouncil.com/ , and I feel it’s calling me to play a bigger game.
I’ll probably do quite a bit of speaking this year and next, and spoke last week to a class at Columbia University which was great. Time soon to get back to the book and ensure the message gets out to the world.
I’m having a few tentative dates, and enjoying my wonderful friends. Also exploring my vision to live with other people after a long time being solo. Life is good!
Lots of love,