The following is an excerpt from Top Coaching Techniques.

1.     I like you more than I let on; I’d like to spend more time with you

2.     You’re sexy/I want to have sex with you

3.     I feel hurt by something you did/do

4.     I’m drained by you…….(being late, not returning my calls, yelling at me etc.)

5.     I’d really like you to touch and hug me more

6.     I love you. Thank you for being in my life.

7.     I’m angry at you.

8.     I’m having sex to please you/keep you in the relationship

9.     I’m worried if I tell you the truth you’ll be angry/ I’m afraid.