Create #45: Attachment vs. Freedom
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Alternative Relationship? New ‘Poly’ TV Show
My good friend Reid Mihalko has produced a breakthrough pilot TV show that sheds light on the interesting and controversial practice of polyamory. It’s a non-traditional relationship model – also known as ‘open relationships’ or having more than one romantic partner.
If you have any interest or curiosity in this area (and the mere mention hasn’t sent you running for the hills!), then please:
- Watch the trailer here or here.
- Go to the show’s MySpace page and either become a friend or sign the guest book so that the producers can show the studio execs that x-number of people are actually interested in watching a show like this.
- Tell your friends about Polly & Marie!
- If you have contacts who might be able to help get Polly & Marie on the air, let my buddy Reid know at firstname.lastname@example.org
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2. FEATURE: Attachment vs. Freedom
“Where’s my laptop?”
My heart skipped a beat. We’d just driven 50 blocks through Manhattan and I couldn’t see my laptop in the car.
And bear in mind my whole business is run through my laptop!
“Man – I think you left in on the sidewalk outside that car.”
And Harold was right; I remember now putting down my laptop on the cement to get a pen, and I hadn’t taken it with us in the car.
That was 20 minutes ago…..a laptop sitting on the sidewalk, in Manhattan, New York.
Something kicked in and my mind said, through the panic: “You’re OK. You backed up a couple of weeks ago. And you can buy another one.” And it was fun to look cool in front of my friends who were amazed at how I was taking it.
I tried to call the restaurant. And for a long…..eternal…..glacial 20 minutes, I got a busy signal!
On the 20th try I got through, and they said “We have it. Someone saw it and called from across the street and we picked it up.”
Jump forward to Germany
After 2 hours of squash at a local gym, I walked to a bus stop and went for my cell phone to call my friend.
No credit cards.
No drivers license.
I had left my street pants – over 2 hours ago – in the change room of the gym.
In under 5 seconds my brain ran through the consequences: “You can call from the club, and get your friend to come pick you up. Your passport is in your hotel, plus a spare credit card. You’re good. Whew!”
So calmly, interested, I walked back to the gym, to find my pants on the counter behind reception – with everything intact.
But what about losing something where it DOES matter?
Just apply the same principle.
I lost the domain LifeCoaching.com.au through inaction and was very upset for a while. Now I trust that I don’t need it – that whatever I’m going to do on this planet doesn’t require that domain.
If you want me to pull out the big guns, I lost my sister when I was very young. I don’t wish that on anyone. And…I can choose to hold on and be upset about it, or create another interpretation, such as: abundance can flow in to replace whatever we lose. It seems there’s a degree of trust involved.
What’s the message?
Well firstly – don’t lend me anything valuable. 😉
But secondly….it’s really fun to practice letting go quicker and quicker.
The thing I’m most enjoying about the ‘near losses’, is the opportunity to ‘let go.’ The opportunity to see my life without the thing, and be grateful for that life, without that thing. “OK – if that’s gone, here’s how my life will look, and that’s pretty good. Hate to see it go, but that’s OK – I really don’t need it.”
Practice letting go, so that in a difficult situation, when you feel like you have lost out…feel the feelings, the sadness or panic, and realize that you’re OK.
Perhaps, in a way, on a very deep level, you’ll always be OK.
Notice each day for seven days – just notice – where you’re getting upset at how it is.
Post on the blog what’s happening in your life right now that you’re upset about. That you’re resisting. Where you feel it shouldn’t be that way. Do you really need it? Ready to let it go right now and love your life the way it is?
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3. The Personal Touch
I’m writing this on a plane which has been delayed, sitting on the runway. Rain and lightning crashing around, and a heavy barricade being blown across the airport.
The guy in front of me said “Oh great! Now we’re going to be here forever.”
I ran through the thought process, and realized I can listen to my iPod, write this newsletter, and I have a great book to read. I could spend about 3 hours here without blinking. And I truly feel grateful that the pilot chose not to take off yet in this storm. And – if I did have an important meeting that I was about to miss – it was beyond my control….so I could let it go, and any image or money I might have received from the meeting.
To lighten the mood I said “Well, at least we have each other,” and he said, “You won’t feel that way for long.”