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How was this marriage saved?

“Before I found out about these relationship principles, I had actually started divorce proceedings. Thank goodness I found you in time David! Thank you so much from myself, my son, my partner Steve and I am sure the neighbours (because there are no more arguments)!!”

Akua Prempeh
United Kingdom

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Why Be a Vegetarian? And how animals are treated…

Check out this provocative and eye-opening article I found on how animals raised for food are treated. Not for the squeamish:

101 Reasons I Am A Vegetarian

(I’d love to read your comments here on the blog.)

FEATURE: A Winning Relationship Model

Excerpted from my eBook, ‘The Truth About Women.’

In a recent issue we we learned about the Doomed Relationship Model, which unfortunately so many of us use!

Now since most of us don’t want doomed relationships, let’s look at a Winning Relationship Model – one where both partners win?

Please her

It seems a large percentage of men are very fulfilled by making their partner happy. Yet I estimate that as many as 90% of men (often including myself) do not take advantage of this principle. Our conditioning and training leads us to focus on our own needs first, which paradoxically leaves us less fulfilled!

The Attention Game

So how can we use this principle? Us guys can make a conscious effort to give up our own agendas, more often, and to shift our attention to our partners. It may not initially feel natural, but you can begin to pick up what your partners want from you.

And I’m not saying we should do this ALL the time. I’m just saying WAY more than we do now.

Men tend to enjoy achieving goals (Producing), and when women get the right kind of attention, they enjoy it enormously (Consuming). So when men put their attention on working out what women want, and then give it to their partners (i.e. achieved the goals, or Produced), both sexes get their needs met. And the women’s enjoyment (Consumption) is extremely fulfilling for the men.

Giving out of surplus

In our society women tend to please their man out of a sense of obligation, and because they are worried that if they don’t please him, he might leave. They are not usually giving simply from a sense of wanting to give; born out of feeling they have so much in their life that they want others to be happy. This giving from conditioning and fear leads to a natural deep-seated resentment in women that may emerge in the form of anger or meanness – and understandably so!

However, the overwhelmingly good news is that – with the man focusing his attention on the woman – she could reach a point of ‘surplus.’ At this point, she feels so naturally happy and content with the world, and the attention she is receiving, that it will spill over to her man and other people around her. She will want to give him everything he wants from this place of surplus rather than from obligation and fear. AND – because she is able to intuit what he needs even better than he can himself – the man reaches a much higher state of happiness and fulfillment than if he had continued to focus narrowly on his own needs (as sadly most of us do!).

What this means

• Women tend to give out of a sense of obligation, and a fear that their man will leave them
• Women enjoy the right kind of attention enormously, and this enjoyment (Consuming) is very rewarding for the man
• Men tend to enjoy achieving goals (Producing)
• By focusing on and meeting his partner’s desire for attention, a man can also meet his own needs – creating a win-win situation
• His job is to pay attention and help meet her needs; her job is to help him get through.

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You can find specific examples of how to apply this principle in, ‘The Truth About Women.’

Grateful thanks to the More House for their impact on the world and for sharing their information with this eager student 😉

Best Regards,

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The Personal Touch

I write this on a plane about to land in Reno, Nevada. I’m heading to Burning Man for the second time, and after that to Harbin Hot Springs for some lovely R&R. (And yes I’ll share pics!)

I managed to fall in love again which has been a beautiful and slightly profound experience. It actually seems I’m too traditional for this lovely being – would you ever believe it? Interesting how closely the feeling of ‘attachment’ can follow a good experience – ‘that was good, I want more!’ Maybe the Buddhists are on to something.

I had perhaps the best birthday party of my life – as I turned 38. Such a delight having my close friends celebrate with me.

Thinking of visiting India (Puna) for a month in December.

Looking forward to launching 3 products in the next months!

And reconnected after several years with Jana Stanfield – her speaking and music rocks! You should check her out; talk about an inspiration.

David