coaching techniques - Inner Firewalking

Breaking Up and Moving On

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

Client: I feel a bit more if I probably don’t get in contact with her, that won’t be probably so bad.

David: Well I’d like to share a couple of thoughts on it. First, I think it’s great, so it sounds like you’re in a good place. What I can see happening is that she was meeting a need for you, she still is. You know, that email felt good, right?

Client: Yeah.

David: So she still is meeting that need for you, and that’s okay, as long as you recognize that when you’re pining, what you’re feeling is, ‘I’m not feeling loved. I want that reassurance from her.’ That’s okay as long as you know what’s going on. It sounds like you realize you weren’t getting everything you need from the relationship, so you made a conscious choice to leave, and then you’re like, ‘Hang on, but I was getting that need.’ What a lot of people do, and what I did for years, is I went back. I went back and got the need met again to the point where I got that filled up, and then thought, ‘What am I doing?’

Client: Yeah, exactly.

Finding The Right Person

The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.

Ingrid: Okay. Now sometimes the hardest thing is to find out or try and work out who the right person is for you, what sort of person you’d like to spend the rest of your life with, or a big part of your life with. Where do you start with that?

David: Yes. Bear in mind, I’ll give you an answer but you can’t really do it properly because the head thinks it knows what it wants, and the head says, ‘Oh, I want this kind of person and this kind of person.’ Ultimately, you know, you may not want that at all, or that may not be right for you. There really is a bit of trust about the whole thing, but the head wants an answer so let’s give it one. What a great thing to do is take a piece of paper and list all the qualities – this is like relationship 101 – list all the qualities that you’re looking for in a relationship. You can talk about physical qualities, so if you’re a woman, how tall is this guy? Does he have to blond? Does he have to have a firm butt? What kind of job does this guy have? Is he really open and outgoing? Is he quiet and shy? Is he sensitive? Has he got a hard edge to him? You know, really list what you’re looking for, and then what I think is a wonderful thing is circle the things that you absolutely must have, that you would rather die alone, an old person, rather than pick anybody else.

Integrity Coaching

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: Okay let’s check something with you now. How did the dinner go?

Client: I didn’t do it.

David: Right.

Client: I’m bad.

David: Yeah, I call that a breakdown in the accountability, because you said that’s what you wanted and you’re not sticking to that. So do you still want accountability?

Client: Yep.

David: How can you reach – does she have a mobile?

Client: Yeah.

David: Have you got a mobile?

Client: Yeah.

David: Okay, how’d you like to give her a call now and tell her when you’re going to cook her dinner?

Client: Yeah, I could do that.

David: It’s called accountability.

Client: It’s just that I’ve got to be careful about why I’m calling her.

David: You can just say, ‘Hey, I want to cook you dinner.’

Client: You mean now now?

David: Yeah, now now. I’ll be happy to hold on.

Client: Let me get off the phone now.

David: I think now might be a little better.

Client: All right.

David: All right, are you willing to do that?

Client: Okay.

David: Great. I’ll hold on.

Client: I’ll put you on hold.

David: Yeah. Thanks.

[Interruption]

David: How are you?

Client: Good. It’s done.

David: Good.

Client: I had trouble getting her. I had to try another number.

David: Well done.

Client: But I did it.

David: That wasn’t so hard.

Client: No, it wasn’t hard at all.

Four-Week Teleclass Structure

The following is taken from Get Paid University.

First teleclass

In your first session, begin by focusing on participants’ Goals and Vision. Use a conversation-starter to get things going. For example: “Do you want to be the locomotive in your life, or the caboose? Which one are you right now?” Determine where your participants are in relation to their goals, and how ready they are for change in their lives.

Second teleclass

After your participants have clearly outlined their goals, you can focus on Strategies for Change. What is one step each participant can take to get on the right track toward what they want? Discussing this question in a group format will generate ideas and excitement. As an added bonus, you’re creating a support structure!

Contents of The Coachstart Manual

The following is an excerpt from the CoachStart Manual.

The fastest way to get started.
The real story about accreditation.
How to build your confidence and experience — gradually and consistently.
The benefits of focusing on your specific niche.
How to get your initial clients.
How to structure your very first coaching session.
How to set your fee in the major coaching countries, and how to negotiate a reasonable fee.
How to collect powerful testimonials to boost your credibility and confidence — right from the start.
How to write a compelling ‘bio’ or resume.
How to craft the details of your coaching service and policies.
How to get clients via the internet, alliances, and public speaking!

Ginger Cockerham on Telephone Coaching

The following is taken from David’s interview with Ginger Cockerham in 10 Super Coaches.

In the first year, what percentage of your coaching was face to face versus phone?

100% by phone. I started coaching by telephone and have only coached one client face to face since I began coaching. I coach all my individual clients and all my groups by telephone. My clients are scattered all over the country and the world – the telephone allows me to provide extraordinary flexibility and allows me to coach more people and groups.

Telephone bridge calls are a great way to stay connected regularly with many clients – and I feel people relax their guard and share more freely and openly on the phone.