The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: It’s interesting: the concern about the lack of confidence, which I know you’ve had for possibly all your life.

Client: Yes, probably. Well, since primary school anyway.

David: Okay. My question is: when would you like to accept that part of yourself?

Client: What do you mean, ‘accept it’?

David: Well, you’ve been concerned about it, like a worry.

Client: Yeah.

David: It’s kind of like a child, right. A child who goes out and plays a lot. Sometimes you might be really concerned and you got to look every five minutes, and then at some point you might just go, ‘Look, he’s a kid. He’s playing. He’s in the back yard. He’s going to do whatever he’s going to do, so I’m not concerned anymore. Whatever’s going to happen is going to happen.’

Client: Mm hmm.

David: So, I’m just wondering, at what point would you like to stop being concerned about your lack of confidence, and really just accept that that’s something that you should have right now?