2012 - Inner Firewalking

Getting The Most From Your Website

The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.

Someone recently said to me, there are only two outcomes you want from your site: either A they buy a product or b they leave their email address. So, you want a newsletter plus a download. Give something of value. I am doing something new. I will give you about 10 different things for free passport membership. Little things like testers and tasters of other products. And they will sign up. And your version will be the newsletter sign up. So that’s critical.

Call 50 People

The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.

David: Right. You walked off the time I invite you to just go for it and play a really big game. I see no reason why in two weeks time when we speak you can’t have 10 clients.

Really?!

David: Yes

Well, I can’t do that.

David: Why not? If you call 50 people really and for fun you’ve got this new perspective and call and share. Share what just happened. Call up and let them know what is going on. Say one thing that happened is I was terrified to call people about my coaching, so I was scared of rejection and had all this crap going on I was being so significant about my life and I’ve just had this big change. Share what a great – you have something authentic to share with them. Say I just wanted to let you know what’s going on and see if you wanted to do a session. I’d love to do a session with you. So if you call 50 people, think what Tony Robbins would do, he’d probably ask you to do 200.

[Laughing] yeah

David: And I’m only asking you to do 50 in two weeks. That’s not that that hard.

Training Your Man

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: Now, here’s the fourth one to do either this week or next week. It might be in your conversation you have with him or it might be in how you finish the conversation.

Client: Yes.

David: You’ve written a bunch of requests that you’d love to make. By the way, you can’t make the request that he says yes to everything you ask. That’s not making a request. That’s a request that he not be a human being.

Client: Yes.

David: Just saying that little technical point. These requests here – would you come to Walderton with me and look at houses? Would you help me with dinner and shopping if I go out doing yoga? These are great requests. What I suggest for you is that you pick one.

Client: Okay.

David: You choose one and you let him know how important it is. You let him know how much you love it, and if need be, you can even find out what it would take to make it fun enough for him.

Follow up Action Steps For The Client

David: Well, I think you’re pretty much there. It’s just details now. So I would love it, when you get a moment tomorrow, to send me a quick email, just letting me know how it went. You know, however it goes, that’s how it’s going to go. Also, would you please email me with what you would say to your grandparents? You’ve just done some awesome communication here with me. So, similar vein: what is there; what can you be responsible for; what can you ask for? You know, just the truth for you. Get it out. Send it to me in a way that feels powerful to you and if I can add anything to it, I’ll get back to you on it.

Client: Okay. Sounds really good.

David: You’ve got two weeks to do some stuff, so it’s great that you said to me, ‘Look I’m feeling pretty empowered and I know what I’ve got to do.’ So, you’re going to work on the ‘clean sweep’. Keep getting it moving – keep cleaning up. I’m going to send you something called the ‘Who Am I’ questions and that’s for you to start looking at who you are as a coach. You’ll have some time to look at that. Do it early in the week, so that you can then think about it and readdress it over the next seven days. Then you can send it to me with your self-coaching form.

Deciphering The Problem

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: Paul, I’m going to ask you to slow down.

Client: [laughing] I’m getting going aren’t I?

David: Yeah, you’re really getting going. So let’s slow down. I get that your mom was tough, but she also did a lot of great stuff. What I’m hearing from you is: if I was going to put it into your words – I’ll put it in your words and you tell me if that’s true for you – it would be, ‘Mom, I wanted more attention as a kid. There’s a certain way I thought that should look and I didn’t get it. I’m actually angry and pissed off, because I didn’t feel loved. I didn’t really, really feel it and I’ve decided (and this may not be rational), but I’ve decided it’s your fault and I’m angry.’ Does that fit you?

Client: Yes.

David: OK, great. Thank you.

Client: So, I’ve toned it down. I was talking in the past.

David: So how would you say it talking in the present? Because I think those feelings are still there. What would you say to her now? I’m not suggesting that you say this to her if you were going to be nosebleed truth about it, but what would you say?

Client: It’s basically what you just said, and it has been said. It was said five years ago. That’s basically what I said. The problem only occurs when I’m living with her; when I see her like a son normally sees his mother.

Never Enough

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: I guess it is and it seems you’re clear as to why I asked you that question.

Client: Well, you’re trying to find what it is that’s motivating me, I presume.

David: There seems to be a strong focus for you on what isn’t working, and the words are in here: Sherry, awesome weather, value time with my daughter. You’ve got your achievements and what you are grateful for, but I don’t get that you’re really present to it; that it’s not really there for you in each moment.

Client: No, it’s probably not. I’m trying to find my way out of it to change that. I guess it’s the thing that I most want than I am happiest with, because I haven’t got what I want to make me happy. That wasn’t very well put, was it?

David: That’s okay. What I am pretty clear on is what you want over the next 12 months that will make you happier. I think that when you get out of this job, it will make a big difference in your life. I understand that. What I really want to know is what could you do – what’s it going to take – over the next 7 days, for you to enjoy those?

Client: [laughing] I can’t chuck my job – that’s not a very useful thing.

David: That might be something I’d actually challenge on another occasion, about whether or not you can do that. But, I’m not going to do it for now. We’ll leave that for you. We’ve not just that to work on.

Archive

Yearly Archive for 2012

Getting The Most From Your Website

Call 50 People

Training Your Man

Follow up Action Steps For The Client

Deciphering The Problem

Never Enough