{"id":1626,"date":"2012-09-04T12:00:33","date_gmt":"2012-09-04T18:00:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/life-coaching-resource.com\/blog\/?p=1626"},"modified":"2012-02-06T15:38:12","modified_gmt":"2012-02-06T21:38:12","slug":"deciphering-the-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.life-coaching-resource.com\/blog\/deciphering-the-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"Deciphering The Problem"},"content":{"rendered":"

The following is an excerpt of one of David\u2019s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques<\/a>.<\/p>\n

David: Paul, I\u2019m going to ask you to slow down.<\/p>\n

Client: [laughing] I\u2019m getting going aren\u2019t I?<\/p>\n

David: Yeah, you\u2019re really getting going. So let\u2019s slow down. I get that your mom was tough, but she also did a lot of great stuff. What I\u2019m hearing from you is: if I was going to put it into your words – I\u2019ll put it in your words and you tell me if that\u2019s true for you \u2013 it would be, \u2018Mom, I wanted more attention as a kid. There\u2019s a certain way I thought that should look and I didn\u2019t get it. I\u2019m actually angry and pissed off, because I didn\u2019t feel loved. I didn\u2019t really, really feel it and I\u2019ve decided (and this may not be rational), but I\u2019ve decided it\u2019s your fault and I\u2019m angry.\u2019 Does that fit you?<\/p>\n

Client: Yes.<\/p>\n

David: OK, great. Thank you.<\/p>\n

Client: So, I\u2019ve toned it down. I was talking in the past.<\/p>\n

David: So how would you say it talking in the present? Because I think those feelings are still there. What would you say to her now? I\u2019m not suggesting that you say this to her if you were going to be nosebleed truth about it, but what would you say?<\/p>\n

Client: It\u2019s basically what you just said, and it has been said. It was said five years ago. That\u2019s basically what I said. The problem only occurs when I\u2019m living with her; when I see her like a son normally sees his mother.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The following is an excerpt of one of David\u2019s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques. David: Paul, I\u2019m going to ask you to slow down. Client: [laughing] I\u2019m getting going aren\u2019t I? David: Yeah, you\u2019re really getting going. So let\u2019s slow down. I get that your mom was tough, but she also did a lot […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":7,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[159],"tags":[188,285,265],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t