{"id":149,"date":"2008-05-03T06:43:00","date_gmt":"2008-05-03T12:43:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/life-coaching-resource.com\/blog1\/?p=149"},"modified":"2009-01-07T13:04:09","modified_gmt":"2009-01-07T19:04:09","slug":"create-52-structures-when-you-just-cant","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.life-coaching-resource.com\/blog\/create-52-structures-when-you-just-cant\/","title":{"rendered":"Create #52: Structures: When You Just Can&#8217;t Get Motivated"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a name=\"announce\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><\/p>\n<h3>1. Announcements\/Offers<\/h3>\n<p><strong>What are they Saying about &#8216;Explode Your Practice&#8217;?<\/strong><br \/>\n&#8220;I have already listened to at least 6 hours and my ability to open my practice has been accelerated by at least 3-6 months. Hearing David&#8217;s real life advice to coaches has made a huge difference for me. This will take months off my learning curve. I won&#8217;t have to go through the frustrating trial and error process which costs time, money and clients! Thank you, David!&#8221;Jeannie Crowell Oregon, USA jcrowell @ bendcable.com<\/p>\n<p>Get your &#8216;Explode Your Practice&#8217; CD set at:<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.explodeyourpractice.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.explodeyourpractice.com\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p><strong>New York Event: Day of Marketing<\/strong><br \/>\nI&#8217;ll be speaking at this event at Columbia University. It&#8217;s Friday, May 16, from 8 am to 6:30 pm, and Saturday, May 17, from 8 am to 12:30 pm.<\/p>\n<p>If you can make it to NYC you&#8217;ll hear my speech that people paid up to $2000 to hear last year, plus we can say hello.<\/p>\n<p>My topic? \u2018The Four Freedoms: How to do what you love and get paid for it&#8217; For more detail on what I&#8217;m covering see <a href=\"http:\/\/www.internetclients.net\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.internetclients.net\/<\/a>&#8211; that pretty much lays it out. Check it out and kindly post on <a href=\"http:\/\/www.solutionbox.com\/comment\" target=\"_top\">http:\/\/www.solutionbox.com\/comment<\/a> if you decided to register \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<p>Register <a href=\"http:\/\/www.dayofmarketing.com\/default.asp?id=2011\" target=\"_blank\">Here<\/a><\/p>\n<p><a name=\"feature\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><\/p>\n<h3>2. FEATURE: Structures &#8211; When You Just Can&#8217;t Get Motivated<\/h3>\n<p>For three months I&#8217;ve barely touched work. In fact I&#8217;ve found it hard to leave the house much of the time. And for some people (including me the past few months), lack of motivation can be just the surface. I&#8217;ve recently experienced anxiety and depression, and now a break up. (Yes, yes, all part of the spiritual journey. And &#8211; it can all be a bit inconvenient when there are bills to pay, and results you want to produce!)<\/p>\n<p>You may be in a similar place. You may just be feeling unmotivated and wanting some oomph in your life. Or you may be doing well, and want to fly higher.<\/p>\n<p>This article is for you.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m feeling motivated and excited right now. And I figure if I can do it coming from the space I&#8217;ve been in, then anyone can do it.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ll keep it to two simple steps:<\/p>\n<h3>Step 1) What do you need for yourself?<\/h3>\n<p>Take a look at what&#8217;s missing for YOU. What are you not giving yourself? What could you add to your life that would fill YOU up? Is it a soothing bath each day? A massage? Doing a good deed? Nurturing touch from a friend? More (or less) time with your partner? Exercise? Or to see an exciting football game.For me, it&#8217;s setting up a lot of company\/social interaction. It&#8217;s being around inspirational people who are making things happen. It\u2019s exercise and moving my body. It&#8217;s music, good food, and chai tea \ud83d\ude09 It&#8217;s doing the inner work. And it&#8217;s keeping busy so I&#8217;m not navel gazing too much on my own in my apartment with my thoughts.<\/p>\n<p>What is it for you? I invite you to make a list right now of things that you might really enjoy; that would fill you up; that would have you feel nurtured and happier.<\/p>\n<h3>Step 2) Put the structures in place to have this in your life<\/h3>\n<p>Given I don&#8217;t feel like leaving the house right now, and I&#8217;m often not in the mood to set up something supportive, setting up structure in advance can often be the key.<\/p>\n<p>What kind of structure would support you moving forward with your goals? And giving you what you need to soar higher?<\/p>\n<p>For business goals do you need a goal buddy? A coach? More social interaction or fun? Accountability? Inspiration?<\/p>\n<p>For more personal goals do you need more fun? More nurturing? To be in action each day? A goal buddy? A coach or therapist? A filled in calendar?<\/p>\n<p>As you read through the list of structures I&#8217;ve created (am creating) for myself, see what comes to you as something that would serve you:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>joining a men&#8217;s group<\/li>\n<li>scheduling time with friends including sleep-overs<\/li>\n<li>registering for volunteer work<\/li>\n<li>exercising almost every day (e.g. rollerblading in central park, squash, 5 Rhythms\/Sweat Your Prayers, Bikram yoga)<\/li>\n<li>setting up a buddy for a regular 8:30am call to do withholds (you get 15 minutes each to talk uninterrupted and blurt out the rubbish in your head; or you could do the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.life-coaching-resource.com\/morning.htm\" target=\"_blank\">Morning Pages<\/a>)<\/li>\n<li>setting up appointments to work from a caf\u00e9 with friends, instead from my home office.<\/li>\n<li>hiring an awesome coach to help me do <a href=\"http:\/\/www.byronkatie.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">The Work<\/a><\/li>\n<li>massage twice a week<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>***<\/p>\n<h3>Action<\/h3>\n<p>1) Go to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=12893229&amp;postID=1170966473862010224\" target=\"_blank\">blog<\/a> right now and post the top three things that would fill you up; that would have you feel nurtured and happier and possibly more motivated.<\/p>\n<p>2) After that list, post the STRUCTURES you will put in place in the next 7 days to make sure these things happen without you having to keep creating them all the time; they just happen. (Hint: a regular schedule helps, as does committing with a buddy or coach).<\/p>\n<p>* * * *<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">Enjoy!<\/p>\n<p align=\"left\"><img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.solutionbox.com\/Graphics\/sighalf.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"100\" height=\"56\" \/><\/p>\n<p align=\"left\">\n<p>P.S. Got a comment on this article? Add it to the <a href=\"https:\/\/www.blogger.com\/comment.g?blogID=12893229&amp;postID=1170966473862010224\" target=\"_blank\">blog<\/a>. I&#8217;d love to hear what gifts you&#8217;re going to give yourself, and the structures you&#8217;ll put in place to ensure they happen.<\/p>\n<p><a name=\"personal\" target=\"_blank\"><\/a><\/p>\n<h3>3. The Personal Touch<\/h3>\n<p>As you may already know from the above article, things have been pretty rough. And &#8211; out of the ashes rises blah blah blah. I&#8217;ve learned a lot about what I want\/need in relationship and what serves me. I&#8217;ve set boundaries for myself, even when it was very difficult to do so. I&#8217;ve set up strong structures in my life to take care of myself. And I&#8217;m exploring who I am &#8211; and how my thoughts work (yes, it&#8217;s pretty trippy &#8211; highly recommend <a href=\"http:\/\/www.thework.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.thework.com\/<\/a> ).<\/p>\n<p>Fortunately &#8211; the last 3-4 weeks have been a major turn around. I&#8217;m excited about business again, and getting stuck into things. My purpose is becoming clearer, and I&#8217;m feeling connected with it: Helping people share their gift with the world, and to get paid for it. And ultimately &#8211; to help people be free in all aspects of their life. And I&#8217;m intrigued by this thing called &#8216;service&#8217; &#8211; it&#8217;s popping up in a lot of different areas. I&#8217;m absolutely thrilled to have been voted into the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.transformationalleadershipcouncil.com\/\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.transformationalleadershipcouncil.com\/<\/a> , and I feel it&#8217;s calling me to play a bigger game.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;ll probably do quite a bit of speaking this year and next, and spoke last week to a class at Columbia University which was great. Time soon to get back to the book and ensure the message gets out to the world.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;m having a few tentative dates, and enjoying my wonderful friends. Also exploring my vision to live with other people after a long time being solo. Life is good!<\/p>\n<p>Lots of love,<br \/>\nDavid<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>1. Announcements\/Offers What are they Saying about &#8216;Explode Your Practice&#8217;? &#8220;I have already listened to at least 6 hours and my ability to open my practice has been accelerated by at least 3-6 months. 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