The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Say you’ve been saying in your mind, ‘Oh, lacking confidence is terrible and bad, and that’s why, you know…’ While you have that, I think you’ll constantly be trying to fix it, and the irony is, that’s what’s going to stop you from having it.
Client: Mm hmm!
David: You’re unconfident about your confidence.
Client: [laughing] Yes.
David: At some point, here’s what’s going to happen to you. You’re going to wake up one day and realize ‘Oh, this is me. All of it is just me, and that’s fine. When I feel confident, then I feel confident; and when I feel unconfident, I feel unconfident. I can be a real timid little dear sometimes, and that’s a part of me that I want to start to get to know.
The following is taken from David’s interview with Anna Dargitz in 10 Super Coaches.
What method did you find most effective in getting your initial clients?
I had some ideas about the universal law of attraction from my depth psychology and world religions work and from Thomas Leonard’s book, The Portable Coach. But, as indicated, I knew of no coaches, workbooks or resources that could guide me… step by step, to use the law to market my business.
It took over a year and a half to create The Authentic Marketer, but we were highly motivated and dedicated to see it to completion. The process of writing it accelerated our proficiencies in the area of attraction. The step-by-step workbook is about who we are beyond name and personality, and how to share it with grace and ease. It focuses on the universal laws that govern our whole world not just how many paying clients we have. When I changed my definition of success from “how many paying clients I have” to “how powerfully I help others express their Whole Self”, I became extremely successful on my own terms.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Now that’s maybe one thing. The other thing I want to say is, I can understand – particularly for a woman – because you are taught you should find a man.
Client: Yeah.
David: You’ve been taught that since birth. That it will give you value and that’s what you should do, and in a way, you’ve been taught that you’re lucky if a man finds you and settles down with you and looks after you – all that kind of crap – before he finally dumps on you. So, particularly for a woman, I can understand the thinking, ‘I must sacrifice for my relationship.’ However, there’s another way of thinking that goes, ‘If you look after yourself and you do what you love, you will shine and you will attract the person you need to be with. Until you become that person you need to be – until you go and shine, the person you are meant to be with can’t even find you.
Client: Yeah.
David: Now, this guy might be the guy. That’s okay. I’m not saying he’s not. I’m saying you are not in a bargaining position. You are not needing him. You are not needing to sacrifice for any relationship. You could find someone who would love to be with you and you’d be a delight to be around, because you are just so loving life.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
So what I did was target this to families, especially blended families, by using our story. So once I write that product for this seminar, the next step is to write one for the next seminar then another product around that. And they will be similar but will target different markets.
David: I think you need two different documents and on one page write the steps to take to serve the blended family market. Then write the steps to take for the corporate market. There may be overlap. Focus on blended families now then move on at another time. It can even be quarterly if you want. On your web site have something that people can subscribe to and you can send seminar announcements to this. Like a blended family newsletter and you even can have someone write it for you if you don’t want to write it. Because we want to get all these things off your plate from the start.
Right.
David: Get someone who is really interested in this. Pay for it or give credit. Maybe they just want to volunteer. I promise you there are people out there who want to volunteer and help.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
See, there’s a lot of confrontational stuff in the world – I was going to use the word energy, and I thought that was a bit to airy-fairy – but there’s a lot of confrontation happening, and I don’t think that’s the best or most fulfilling way to go about it. I would suggest partnering with your boss in some way and working out what you think you’re worth. Then ask your boss’s honest opinion.
Now, that may not work, and there may come a time when you need to draw a line and you say, You know, if I am worth more than this, and if I don’t get paid more than this, than I respect your decision but I need to go elsewhere.’ Which brings me to point two. I said there were two or three different ways that I think would be obvious to get a pay raise.
One would be going and saying, ‘I’d like a pay raise now.’ Another great idea would be to go to your boss and say, ‘Look, I want a pay raise. I’d like to be earning fifty percent more than I’m earning and I’d like to get it within a reasonable time frame. Now who do I have to be and what do I have to contribute to this company to be worth that to you?’ So there you can partner with your boss and your boss can reach out to take a look. ‘Well, if you achieve these targets, that might be worth it. If you got this training that might be worth it.’ You can actually create a career plan together.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
Client: It makes total sense. It would just be total shock factor for my dad. I mean, we don’t talk as closely as I’d like to as a rule. For me to suddenly to come out with something like this…
David: Yeah. I get it. That’s why I gave that tip on placing him, and you might need to do a little more. As a matter of fact, I’ve called people I haven’t spoken to in twenty years and told them I’ve got something to apologize for. Do you think they didn’t find that a little unusual? So, I just told the truth. I said, ‘You know, you might find this a little bit strange – I feel a bit strange in calling you – but I just got some clarity. I realize something that I haven’t been sharing with you and I want to do it now. Do you have a couple of minutes just to listen?’ That’s all you need to do.
Client: I’d really like to get to that.
David: I know you’re able to do it, and I totally get this is new for you. This isn’t something you’ve practiced every day. I’m just saying, would you call your dad after this call and to treat him as your dad – treat him as someone who really does want the best for you – and just share with him what’s been going on with his little girl.
