The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
David: I’d like to clarify, are you saying you want to coach her, make a contribution to her because she helped you out a lot
Ah no, not necessarily that, it’s just that she seems the ideal sort of person and she be compatible with
David: Ok Terry, I want you to forget everything I said before
Yeah Ok
David: How do you feel about saying what you just told me?
Yeah
David: Well it’s the truth. She’s seems to be doing really well, she seems to be somebody you’d be compatible with and she is successful and you feel there might be some other avenues she would like to focus on because she is already so successful in business
Yeah that’s right
David: I mean what a great thing to say and what is great about that to is that it is coming from your heart.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Yeah. So, the truth – and we couldn’t have had this conversation a month ago without this example – the truth is an amazing thing. It will set you free, right? It could set you free from this job.
Client: But then, where does that put me? I still feel like I need to pay off a couple of more bills and make sure there’s money coming in. I know I have financial support now, but then that just brings me to my other issue, which is relying on someone else, which I’ve never done before in my life.
David: Yeah. So, I think you’ve got some things going on. I want to finish off on this truth thing, because we don’t know that that’s going to mean that your job’s gone. We’re just saying that you’re putting it at risk.
Client: Yeah.
David: It doesn’t mean that it’s over. You can go in and talk to her in integrity. Tell her whatever it is you’ll be doing for the company and winding up your stuff and totally working out the rest of your term. She might be grateful that you’re honest.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
David: Right. Now, do you have a bio as a speaker?
No, not as a speaker.
David: There you go. Se we need a bio, and in there you need some testimonials, well you don’t need it, but it is great to have a one pager that looks good, has your photo on it, says bing, bing, bing, here are the benefits of my speech, here is the title, something punchy, and two or three testimonials with people’s names and the companies. And probably only use the company if you spoke for that company. But their name and their title. Now you’ve already done some speaking. So go back, beat the bushes, get testimonials from people, let them know what kind of testimonial you want, you know, maybe send them a draft and say hey, can you give me something that feels good, and then whack it in. When you’ve got a great bio, and the first speaker seeker you speak to, you can fax them your bio or e-mail, and you’re in. Because you’ve already spoken. How does that sound?
The following is an excerpt from the CoachStart Manual.
Suppose coaching comes up and the person says: “That’s interesting”.
Here is a series of questions which will often lead to a strong trial session:
“Really? Have you ever considered working with a coach?
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What’s one area you would focus on first, if you had your own coach?
[PAUSE/LISTEN]
Do you think coaching might make an impact in that area?
Well – why don’t we find out? I’d be happy to offer you a 20 minute consultation – no obligation, and no charge. If it turns out coaching can’t really help, at least you’ll leave with a good sense of what coaching is all about. If it turns out it would have a big impact, we’ll look at what kind of coaching structure would best support you.
[PAUSE/LISTEN]
Great – how do I reach you? How’s Friday for you?”
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: If mama ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy!
Client: Very true!
David: So it’s just smart, and it’ll save you time. Rather than focusing your attention on yourself, focus more of it on her. The other advantage of that is she’s more intuitive. So she’ll know when you need a break; she’ll know when this is right for you; she’ll know when this color’s right for you. She just… Imagine life without women!
Client: It’s true.
David: So she’ll actually help to guide you to places that you wouldn’t go on your own.
Client: True.
David: So you can actually rely on that, but the question you raised is, ‘What’s the limit? What about when I need something?’ What I would suggest – and this is coming straight from a guy in the States who’s developed all this stuff – is 10%. 10% of the time there should be limits. Like ‘No, that’s not okay’ or ‘No, I’m not going to go there. I’m on vacation’ or ‘No, I don’t agree to spending that.’
Client: Got it.
David: That helps in two ways. One way is you get to look after yourself. Like, sometimes you just need some space.
Client: Yeah.
David: Or you need this or you need that – so sometimes you can put the veto in and go, ‘You know what? I need to look after myself on that one.’ The other reason that’s really good is, women need to know that there are limits. In fact, everybody does. If you have absolutely no limits, respect can disappear. Then you’re all wishy-washy, and no one wants a doormat.
The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.
Ingrid: What if David, you know you want to get out of your current job – perhaps it’s painting, perhaps you’re a nurse at the moment – but you just don’t know what, you don’t quite know which way to head?
David: Great question. So, I think that a lot of us have learned at an early age to stop creating, to stop dreaming. It may sound simple and trivial, but really, I would start with a notepad. Get a piece of paper and write down what’s important to you in life. Now it might be adventure, it might be discovery, it might be love, and it might be teaching or helping somebody. You want to get your core values, because if you pick a job that’s not surrounding your core values, you’re not going to be fulfilled anyway. So that would be step number one.
Ingrid: OK. So that was basically where we start. Blank notepaper and pen. Should you ask and invite other people’s opinion, your friends, your relatives, your husband, and your wife?
David: That’s a great idea! I would move to step two. In step two what I would do is ask someone to write down twenty possibilities, maybe fifty, and really get silly. Maybe include a ballerina there, even if you don’t like dancing. Now I’d include working for Aschio, something like that, and really get out there and think outside the box. I think it’s a great suggestion – go and talk to your friends, ask your parents what they think you’d be great at, ask your kids. Really have some fun with it. I mean, this could be a great project all in itself.
