2012 - Inner Firewalking

Getting Your Message Heard

David: How would you feel about delaying leaving about 10 minutes so you could call your dad?

Client: I don’t know. I am planning on speaking to him tonight. Do you want me to get into this on the phone or do you just need to connect with him?

David: Well I don’t want you to get into this, because this is not about my life. In my experience, the longer this waits – like it’s already there for you to communicate to him and you just tapped into something today. It’s already there for you and you just found a way to communicate. So, for you to wait is to take you out of that space, and it’s going to weigh on you until you communicate it.

Client: Oh.

David: So, I’ve found that the only time really to communicate something like this is as soon as you can get yourself to a phone and say what you need to say. So then you can spend the rest of the evening just free and feeling like you said what you needed to say.

Dealing with Difficult Situations

The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: There is something huge about you and your son, and there is something huge for you about self-care. I am not going to get into the psychology of it, since I’m not a psychologist – they know more than me – but there is possibly an identity you have for yourself as a mother. It might be time for you to let go of that and step into the identity of Kathy, doing what Kathy knows is right. What would it take for you to say no to your son?

Client: Yeah, that’s a big one.

David: Let me put it a better way, what would it take for you to say no to something that is detrimental to your son and to you?

Client: I am confused as to what I have to say no to.

David: I don’t think you’re confused at all. I don’t think you want to hear it or want to do it.

Client: No, I don’t want to do it.

Balanced Nutrition

The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: It’s a great cycle too. It’s like a lot of things in life, which you’ll notice as you coach. When you’re not feeling well or not happy in yourself, then you start eating worse foods. You want more chocolate – more this and that to reward yourself – and then you make yourself feel even worse. It’s a great cycle, perpetuating. Similarly, there is a positive cycle, right? If you eat healthier foods, you start feeling better about your life, so you’ll want healthier foods. You can have whichever cycle you like. Which one would you like?

Client: I want the one that is easier on myself. This chaos is just crazy and I’m tired of it. Healthy eating is one thing I battle with big time. Mentally, I battle with healthy foods.

David: It’s funny that they’re all linked.

Structure For Peace

The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: How often do you work out?

Client: I got sick again, so I haven’t again, but I try to go at least four times a week.

David: How often do you work out?

Client: Well lately it’s been – I haven’t since I moved here, so it’s been once or twice.

David: Okay, so is that something that would support you if you worked out four times a week, something that would –

Client: Oh yeah.

David: – help your brain chill out?

Client: Absolutely.

David: Okay, so what’s it going to take to have you exercise four times a week?

Client: I just need to get more disciplined with the hours I spend at work, and ensure that I get some more sleep than I’m getting. I’m –

David: I’ve got a little warning bell going off.

Client: What’s that?

David: When someone says, ‘I’ve just got to get more disciplined,’ or, ‘I’ve just got to do it,’ that doesn’t always, in fact, it often doesn’t equate to doing it.

David Wood with Advice for New Clients

The following is taken from David’s interview in 10 Super Coaches.

What words of advice would you give to a coach starting out?

I would say, make sure you’ve got some good guidance. Whether that’s through a school or through a mentor coach or a good circle of support around you that also has good business sense.

And, you need to coach. You can’t just wait for it to happen, you can’t just wait to get confident and you can’t just wait for people to float through your door at $300 or $400 a month.

You need to coach fifty people, I’d say, even if it’s just one session, so that you can develop some confidence as a coach and that’s when your career can really take off. When you know that you’ve got the skills, when you know that people are getting results, that’s what’s got to happen and it won’t happen until you actually coach.

Developing a Coaching Structure

The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.

David: So let’s just see if we can cover all the rules here. It has been quite a fast session for me where you get right into something. The time flies. Ok so we have. Oh the other element how about paying on time.

David: What a great way to demonstrate commitment. And last thing I can think of is that they have been ready for the call.

Ok. So they are ready with their notebook, their homework which I should now have a copy of.

David: And that they have generated what they want to cover in the call. Ok. It’s a real passive stance when they have come along to the call and say ok now what?

That will give me time to look over the material and…

David: Exactly and even if you don’t do that you can even work out what their actions could be for the next week. Have them do the coaching themselves so they can come up with solutions rather than rely on you. Ok and then you can build on what they do rather then replacing what they would do.

Archive

Yearly Archive for 2012

Getting Your Message Heard

Dealing with Difficult Situations

Balanced Nutrition

Structure For Peace

David Wood with Advice for New Clients

Developing a Coaching Structure