Archive for June, 2008

Create #53: What’s Your Greatest Dream?

Tuesday, June 24th, 2008

1. Announcements/Offers

What are they Saying about ‘Explode Your Practice’?

“David, thanks so much for creating Explode Your Practice™. I’ve listened to all the libraries, and my coaching practice is booming as a result!

I have:

-21 new exploration sessions booked
-9 new clients
-my website appearing in all major search engines, and
-I’ve started coaching international clients!

Daniel Midson-Short
Australia
www.lifestylerevolution.com.au

“I have already listened to at least 6 hours and my ability to open my practice has been accelerated by at least 3-6 months. Hearing David’s real life advice to coaches has made a huge difference for me.

This will take months off my learning curve. I won’t have to go through the frustrating trial and error process which costs time, money and clients! Thank you, David!”

Jeannie Crowell
Oregon, USA
jcrowell @ bendcable.com

Get your ‘Explode Your Practice’ CD set at:

http://www.explodeyourpractice.com/

Are you a snuggler?

I LOVE snuggling.

I just created a tshirt for myself that says: “get your snuggle on”
The site asked me if I wanted to make it available
publicly and I clicked Yes. Then I thought – maybe
others would like this tshirt. You can order it online
here:

Get your snuggle on T-Shirt

I can’t wait to wear it.

———————-

2. FEATURE: What’s Your Single Greatest Dream?

Let’s keep this edition straight to the point.

What’s your dream?

Your greatest dream?

What is your single greatest dream?

If you REALLY, REALLY, REALLY could have anything you want?

You know the most important step to having something, is declaring it.

Forming the very thought in your head, is the beginning.

Speaking it to the world, is the next step.

Hmmm…I wonder what it is for you…

An island in the carribean?

To bring one million people out of poverty?

To dance on broadway?

To have a best selling book? (yes, you know who you are)

To have the partner of your dreams?

To cure a disease?

ACTION
What is your single greatest dream?

Would you tell me?

Would you tell everyone?

Post it here: Blog

Love,

David Wood

—————–

3. The Personal Touch
I’m three days fresh from the Byron Katie School
for The Work. This is the closest that might come
express what’s happening:

I’m cracked wide open. Heart unfurled…
Gentle sobs as the world pours in.
Love flowing me.
Any thought an excuse to feel
The key to freedom in my pocket
100 doors partially unlocked
Just beginning to open
The thrill of unfolding
Knowing it can’t stop now
Knowing it’s certain
Sensing the acceleration like cracks in a dam
And knowing it’s….already
Loud joy
Are you an angel?
What is not an angel?
Support too big to grasp
Support is God is Support
Body-gasms, bursts of pleasure
In the solitude awakes company
More together than surrounded by friends
Are you new here?
Yes, I am.

Love David

P.S. Sharings on your Byron Katie experience are welcome at blog

MM #97: Accountability for Personal Power

Monday, June 9th, 2008

1. Announcements/Offers

When did ‘Ten Super Coaches’ Become ‘Seventeen Super Coaches!?’

With your copy of the ’10 Super Coaches ebook’ you currently get a free expansion pack including another seven interviews!

10 Super Coaches

To find out how 10 17 ordinary coaches are earning $30,000 to $1.4 million per year, and how you can do it too. Click here:

http://www.10SuperCoaches.com

“I was working on a marketing strategy that was going to cost quite a bit of money when I bought the ebook. It made me realise there is a MUCH more direct, and less expensive method. Saved me several hundred pounds and gave me a kick up the rear end to do something else. Thanks!”

Neil Gilbranch, United Kingdom

“Why reinvent the wheel when you can see how successful people are already producing results you want? Don’t hesitate, buy it today. The ’10 Super Coaches’ ebook has given me the confidence and inner strength I needed to build my business, I have been able to fine-tune my fees, and I have offered sample sessions with success.”

Denise Simons, New Zealand
RELATE Coaching

Visit 10 Super Coaches


2. FEATURE: Accountability for Personal Power

Sometimes when you are coaching or delivering a service, the client doesn’t hold up their end of the agreement. For example, perhaps they didn’t do their “homework”, following through on a commitment, or even call on time. Wouldn’t it be great to hold them accountable?

And if you haven’t already guessed it, it’s best to start with ourselves. Where are we not holding ourselves accountable for what we say we’ll do?

Often in our society, these commitments are glossed over. Don’t worry about being late, missing all your deadlines or not doing what you said you would. People don’t usually hold you accountable, and we let them ‘slide’ on things too. It’s an unspoken deal.

However, not doing what I say I will do, creates a loss of power. I’ll trust myself a little less, and people will trust me a little less. My word has less power the more I say something and not follow through. Can you see this in your life? As coaches, as people committed to being extraordinary, we have a chance to create something different – something unusual.

The coaching relationship can be a new way of relating for some people: being accountable for what we say and do. Wouldn’t it be fantastic if everyone took on this new relationship model? Let’s be a model for accountability.

Have you ever intended to do something, but it didn’t happen? “I really wanted to write my vision BUT I didn’t have time.” Intention is great but a true commitment to what you say is something different.

Coaching Questions

Here are some questions to ask a client who is not following through on their actions (and of course you can apply these to yourself). Let’s find the source of the resistance:

1. What is in the way? What is preventing you from doing this task?

Answer honestly. This may be a major block for you to work around. This also may be a signal to tell you that what you set for yourself is not really what you want to accomplish.


2. What are the benefits of completing the action?

Get in touch with how good it will feel to get the results.

3. What is the cost of not doing the action?

Really getting present to how life will be if the action is not done can be a big motivator.

4. Is this a commitment for you, or just a good idea?

Are you telling yourself, “I’ll do it.” or are you saying, “It is a good idea and if it’s convenient, I’ll do it.” Let the client know they have options. They don’t have to just agree or disagree. They can also counter offer and negotiate.

5. Would you like to drop this action or commitment?

Once I told a client who continually failed to write her newsletter: “Drop it. I’m sick of you saying the same thing every week. Let’s drop this as a goal”. And she replied: “That feels terrible. No way – I really want to do it”. And the next week it was done. Threatening to take the goal away was very powerful, and fun!

Practices

Here are some practice strategies I suggest for myself. You might like to take one of these on for yourself this week, and have any of your clients practice it as well.

1. Honor your word.

Honoring your word means that you do everything you say you are going to do. So you will need to choose what you say carefully. When someone says “Call me tonight”, if I’m not committed to it I say “I may do that, and if I don’t feel free to call me”. If someone says “Give Bill my love when you see him” I say: “I will if I think of it”. If someone says are you coming to my party tomorrow night I might say: “I’m not sure how my energy will be tomorrow, and if I feel good I’ll come”.

Also you may wish to practice saying “no”.

If you’ve said something and you don’t want to follow through anymore or you can’t, always communicate as soon as practical to renegotiate and empower the other person.

2. Under-promise and over-deliver.

Under-promise and over-deliver means…well, let’s give an example: instead of agreeing to finish a project by Thursday, tell them Monday and have it done by Friday!

Not only will you build your self-esteem but you will also build the appreciation and respect of others. They will know what to expect from you and will want to communicate with you more often. People will know they can count on you.

3. Create a structure

If I’m committed to doing something, I’ll often put a structure in place to get it done. You can use this for yourself, and of course encourage your clients to tell you the structure they will create to ensure something gets done. Their structure might include lots of notes posted everywhere, getting their secretary or spouse to give them reminders, or adding it to their scheduling book.

***

Action

What we learn is just insight without the application of practice. To really learn it, we must practice.

1. Say “no” three times this week!

2. Under-promise and over-deliver three times next week.

3. Pick a goal you want to move forward on, and put in place a structure to support you moving forward. (e.g. reminders, motivational picture, asking a buddy to call you, working with a coach).

4. What ONE THING did you get from this article the blog that will be most useful to you going forward? Post at the blog.

***

This was taking from the ‘Top Coaching Techniques’ self-study program. If you want more ideas to improve your coaching visit: Top Coaching Techniques.

Enjoy!

What book can save your business from failing?

Saturday, June 7th, 2008

I’m excited to tell you that at the end of June I’ll be interviewing a business legend – and you can join in.

He wrote THE book on how to start and run a successful business.

He didn’t change my business thinking…

…he GAVE me my business thinking. I didn’t know what a business truly was until I read it.

It’s ‘The E-Myth Revisited’ by Michael Gerber. The book shows you how to go from working in your business to creating systems that let you have a life as well, and now has a cult following.

Now, you can just show up to the interview at the end of June if you like. But you will get MUCH more out of it if you have read The E-Myth.

So I encourage you to order your copy right now – today. You can find either of these books in your local bookstore or Amazon.com. (That’s right, no affiliate commission – I just want you to read it!)

And after reading it, if you’re ever willing to part with it, it will make an amazing gift for a friend.

Cheers,

David

P.S. Already a fan of the E-Myth and Michael Gerber? Share your experience in the comments.

P.P.S. If you want to make sure you don’t miss the teleclass with Michael, lock in June 26 6pm EDT/NY time. Details will follow closer to the date.

P.P.P.S. The price of http://www.topcoachingtechniques.com/ will be going up soon. If you’d like deep confidence in your coaching ability, beat the price rise and order your copy today and listen in the car, on the train, around the home – train yourself! ;-)